Preview

What a match looks like.

One name a month, sometimes less. No photo. No first name. A code name from a curated dictionary, a paragraph telling you why we believe there might be something there — including the differences worth knowing about — and a coffee suggested at a public place.

This is what it would look like for a real beta participant. The example below is synthetic — drawn from the Cedar × Lyra archetype in our methodology knowledge bank.

Preview only. This is what the introduction notification would look like for someone who has completed the full questionnaire and been matched against the London cohort. Live matching opens when London passes critical mass.

There's someone we'd like you to meet.

Lyra.

London · 31 · compatibility 86

We think there's something here. You and Lyra are both Secure on attachment — you'll both feel safe under stress without needing to chase reassurance. You share two of your top three values (benevolence and self-direction) — kindness and personal authenticity matter to both of you. Your life vision is closely aligned: both want two children in the next three to six years, both London-anchored, both pursue ambitious-but-boundaried careers.

Where you'll need to talk: Lyra was raised Jewish, currently low-observance, and Friday-night dinners matter to her family. You were raised Catholic, currently low-observance, open-minded about partner faith. Both of you are open — but how you would raise children with respect to tradition is a real conversation. Worth having early, over coffee, before either of you decides much.

— Coffee, Tuesday at 7pm, at a place we'll suggest near both of you?

Your reply is private. Lyra is being asked the same question separately. If you both say yes, the meeting is set. If one says no, both walk away cleanly — neither of you will know who.

Whatever you decide, we won't suggest anyone else this month.
Scarcity is the product.

After the coffee

You leave with no obligation. The next morning — between four and twenty-four hours after — the app asks each of you privately:

Would you like to continue?

If you both say yes, you exchange first names and a way to reach each other, outside the app. If one says no, both exit cleanly. Neither of you knows who said no. Symmetric face-saving by design — this is the part of the mechanic we're proudest of.

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